This should be a good thing. To me, it is.
Except, for the world’s narcissistic population, it isn’t. Because it means, first, I’ve healed completely, and second, I can spot a narcissist like a well trained K9 drug cop on the Mexican – American border. This is very bad news for the narcissistic population of the world. This is why:
*I’m not quiet. I’m a NY Italian and this means I’m (by Midwestern standards) loud. It also means I know how to fight and know how to hit and where. I’m a 3rd generation first born boxer with a built in mean right hook.
*I speak. Clearly and often. To anyone who will listen. I have tact, but not a filter. And I’m not even remotely PC.
*I’m a certified teacher. As such, I’m not confined to teaching the 3 R’s. Teachers teach and teachers empower. This includes teaching and empowering the lesser educated about the narcissist. And I’ll do it every day for free.
*I know where the narcissist is weak. If the narcissist happens to be a male (they aren’t always), I can certify that the weakest point on any man’s body – especially the narc’s – is not in his pants. It’s his pride and confidence level. Interestingly enough, women are stronger here, especially after we’re healed. One good hit to the ego, where it hurts the most, when unexpected, it’s just as lethal as a Glock. Especially in public and exposing that one thing the narcissist is most sensitive about. I’ve done it – sent the narcissist physically to his knees, then to suicide watch and therapy, and then to a 30 mile radius because he kept trying to get me back and trying to RAPE me. ZERO exaggerating. After 15 years of abuse and after I left him.
*I have a well – itemized fuck budget. This is a list of things I care about. AKA….things I give a fuck about. It is a literal list. It’s quite freeing. Societal expectations, what the narcissist expects, and generally being nice are not on my fuck budget – or are at the very least, pocket change at best, on a good day. I’m independent of the narcissist, not an extension of one.
….So there it is. Having survived a narcissist mother and a narcissist ex husband, the latter because of the former, I’ve learned well. For me, this is a very good thing. The two people I’ve mentioned are still upset that I wriggled free of them. Except, that’s what survivors do.
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